Family photographs matter. They might be the pictures your parents frame, the ones you send to grandparents, or a rare chance to get several generations together.
But you probably don’t want your entire drinks reception to become a roll call. There’s a balance here, and a little planning before the day makes it much easier to find.
Write down the groups that matter to you
Start with the people you really want photographs with, rather than copying a huge list because it looks official. Parents, siblings, grandparents, chosen family, close friends. Your list should reflect your people.
Write each group on its own line. “Family photos” is a heading, not quite a plan. Names are helpful, especially where a description such as “the bride’s family” could mean several different combinations.
There isn’t a magic number of groups that suits every wedding. Share your list with your photographer and ask what feels realistic for the time and space available.
Choose someone to help gather people
Your photographer may have only just met everyone. They won’t automatically know which of the three people standing by the bar is your uncle.
A willing friend or family member who knows the guests is incredibly helpful. Give them the list beforehand, explain where the photographs are happening and check they’re happy to help. For a bigger wedding, someone from each side of the family can make sense.
Their job is to help people be nearby when they’re needed. It doesn’t need to become a full-time position with a whistle.
Think about the order
Talk to your photographer about an order that avoids moving everyone backwards and forwards. People who find standing or walking difficult may appreciate being included early. Very young children might have a shorter window of enthusiasm too.
If there are family circumstances you’d rather not explain in front of everyone, let your photographer know privately beforehand. You can agree comfortable groupings without turning it into an announcement.
Leave room for everyone else
Your formal list doesn’t have to contain every photograph taken that day. There will be hugs, conversations, laughter and people being themselves around it.
Tell your photographer about anyone particularly important to you. Then discuss how to include them, whether that’s a planned group, a relaxed picture later or simply making sure your photographer knows who they are.
Keep a moment for the two of you
Couple portraits are a different part of the day from gathering family groups. They can be a chance to step away together for a few minutes, with your photographer and videographer helping you feel comfortable.
If there’s something you’d love, say so. A quiet walk, a particular view or a few photographs around sunset. Your team can advise on the light, location and timing. You don’t need to arrive with a collection of poses memorised.
Share the plan, then enjoy the people in it
Once the list is agreed, send it to your photographer and the person gathering guests. Add the location and time to your Wedding Day Plan, and make sure the people involved know where to go.
The £1.99 Personalised Wedding Toolkit includes an optional Family & Friends Photos list, with space for names, a gathering contact and the portraits you’d like of just the two of you. One less thing to keep in your head.